Have you ever wondered how early childhood pain or trauma affect ones capacity to love?
And to those who have been seriously hurt, is it possible to be so damaged emotionally that you actually can't love again?
- Stories of trauma and pain are part of my normal day as a therapist.
I hear about hurt that starts in early childhood for some and continuing throughout life for others.
Dating is a stage of romantic relationships in humans whereby two people meet socially with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a prospective partner in an intimate relationship or marriage.
Loving someone deeply requires taking the time to truly know them.
Maybe that's why some people stay so busy and never take a minute to slow down, because if they did it would mean getting honest about what's missing in their life and that would be too painful, so it's off to another busy activity to avoid getting real.
The other day I was talking to a man who has gone through a series of unsuccessful relationships and he actually used the word “DONE” when he was describing how he felt just before ending a relationship.
Just simply “I was done” like when you are done with something and you throw it away because it is no longer useful to you.
It just struck me as strangely sad that he was referring to a woman that had loved him. Just another sad ending that is common when someone gives up on love before the relationship is over, and when that happens usually both people are going to get hurt in the process.