In situations like this, you need to be willing to be honest with yourself and then ask yourself again, “What is the thing to do?” Of course, trusting your gut is easy when your heart and head are in sync and all signs indicate “full speed ahead.” But when careful attention to your gut reveals an inner conflict, it’s important to figure out what’s behind the tension.I didn’t know how to deal with a conniving, two-faced co-worker.
As you wrestle with how to proceed, remember that whether or not your initial gut reaction is wise to follow, it is always wise to pay attention to it.
I struggled to maintain healthy boundaries with my overbearing mother and calculating, sharp-tongued adult daughter.
I was afraid to stand up to the people I loved because I didn’t want to seem irrational, unreasonable or ungrateful.
In this case, you might need to ask yourself if the lack of connection is really about being too different, or more about you being defensive.
Maybe your last relationship was bad and you are afraid to open up again.