“On one, I got loads of emails from men 15 years younger than me living in Pakistan and India, who just wanted an opportunity to move to the West. They will tell you that if you just want it enough, and you keep trying, and you accept that you have to get through 50 frogs to find the one great catch, and you don't give up hope even on your 70th appallingly bad date…then you'll get there. But as for me, I'm exhausted even thinking about it.
“I contacted the administrator of the website and asked her how to stop these creeps from constantly clicking on my profile and sending me emails. It turns dating into a full-time job, and I'm already lucky enough to have one of those. Maybe there I will use more Christian dating websites in the future, but for now, I'm leaving my love life in the hands of God.
“It's pressure from my family but also pressure from myself – I think life would just be easier, and better, if my partner was Jewish,” she tells me.
As well as the issues of “he's too pious,” or “he's just a bit boring,” there can be far greater worries about whether potential suitors are simply weighing up your worth based on your ability to secure them a visa. The whole experience raises a bigger question: how do you find someone of faith to share your life with when you are in a minority?
“I've tried a few of the most popular Muslim dating sites,” says Aisha*, a Sunni Muslim. Sure, there are success stories – we've all known someone who knows someone who found her “soulmate” online.
Physical touch should be in the context of a meaningful relationship, not reduced to satisfaction of personal need. Both partners should take responsibility for setting limits. 7) Is there too much physical and too little other?
Physical touch/intimacy should correspond with commitment. This doesn’t mean anything goes if you are engaged. What is your motivation -- power and control, gratifying your own ego, meeting a selfish need, or genuine affection?