Going out to the movies wouldn't necessarily mean that they want to be with you forever, but it would suggest a certain effort reserved for more traditional "dating."Even if it's just a drink, you're dating.
Your best self will lead you away from hate feelings, into the promised land of joy and forgiveness! If you ask me, your narrative about this being about your ego is an intellectual story, not a story about your true feelings, and it’s blocking your ability to treat this situation the way it needs to be treated. You’re not treating yourself as precious and important.
loosely) that has progressed beyond a third or fourth date, but hasn't been declared "exclusive," I have no idea what to tell my friends I'm doing when I plan on hanging out with said person on a given night.
"I'm going to go have a drink with this guy I'm hanging out with," is totally appropriate, but so is "this guy I've been dating a little bit asked me to grab drinks." So are we dating, or hanging out? Realistically, we're "spending time together after a few dates and thinking about finally smushing," but that doesn't seem as straightforward.
I should mention that for the past year I have been in a relationship with a lovely, wonderful man who is amazing and I have no interest in the tool-bag human AT ALL. It’s as though she’s taking over parts of my life (I’m not kidding when I say she has found a way to be romantically involved with at least six to eight men I’ve been involved with or mentioned since I’ve met her). And to top it off, she keeps inviting me places they’ll both be, so I’m constantly preparing for the moment she springs their relationship on me with an audience around. Feeling a Bit Single-White-Femaled Dear FABSWF, Do you think the ideal is to get over this?
Long question short: All of this makes me angry and frustrated and mad and filled with a shitty hate feeling and I don’t know how to get over it. Would your “best self” rise above this and forgive your friend and embrace whatever crazy adventure comes next, because after all, you’re loved and happy and your life is great, so who cares? I would’ve told you that your best self can rise above these petty squabbles with friends. Who approaches and seduces not one of her friend’s exes, but several of them?